It is customary to give gifts on holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays. Age-old traditions and superstitions can give each gift a positive or negative connotation. There are people who are skeptical about beliefs and will be glad to receive a gift. But there are others prone to superstitions who can see bad omens in gifts. What should you not give? What gifts should you avoid?
Elementary politeness will not allow you to refuse even a dubious item. And any negative gift can be easily neutralized with the help of salt, fire, money, water. Often, a bad omen is just an excuse for a bad character, an inability to give and receive gifts.
Gifts and signs
Since pagan times, there have been beliefs about what can be given and what cannot be given. It is not customary to come to someone else's house empty-handed - this is a sign of disrespect for its owners. But some gifts also carry bad omens or negative energy.
This relationship does not always pay off. A sign is just a subjective reaction of a particular person to a certain action or object. Believe it or not - everyone will decide for themselves. However, in order not to upset the owners or the birthday boy, you should take into account some signs. What cannot be given and what can be given? Which gift to choose for a special occasion?
You should not bring gifts from vacation that have incomprehensible symbols or unknown words. It is possible that in this way the sorcerer wants to transfer his fate and illness to the one who receives this thing.
Slippers
Items associated with funeral symbols are not recommended to be given as gifts. They carry intuitive denial, hidden anxiety. What can't be given? Signs about slippers are associated with the transition to the world of the dead. Usually a person is buried wearing shoes, often slippers. Therefore, a gift may cause unpleasant associations.
If the giver and recipient of the gift are not superstitious people, then the sign may not work. We convey information to the gift with our thoughts and charge it with negative energy. Therefore, a good mood and good wishes are the best omen for any gift.
Watch
Almost every country has superstitions about what gifts should not be given. Signs don't always work. It depends on how much the person himself believes in this or that belief. For example, wristwatches are not recommended as gifts for either men or women. It is believed that the running time mechanism affects the biological rhythm of a person. In China, such a gift means an invitation to a funeral.
In our country there are also such signs. What should you not give to your loved one? Wrist watch. This will stop the relationship and speed up the separation process. In addition, the process of putting a watch on your hand is reminiscent of snapping handcuffs.
Neutralizing a gift is simple. You can symbolically put a wristwatch on a soft toy or doll and thus present it as a gift. The sign does not apply to wall, grandfather clocks and alarm clocks.
Shawls, towels
Scarves and towels are usually associated with ritual actions. During the funeral, those who carry out the coffin are given a new towel. The rest of those present will wear scarves. This is done so that people remember the deceased with a kind word. Therefore, it is not customary to give funeral symbols for the holiday.
But there are handmade bath towels, kitchen towels, and handkerchiefs that you just want to give to someone. How to present something that cannot be given? Signs in most cases have exceptions.
Both scarves and towels can be given, but only in pairs. A double gift symbolizes harmony in the home. Two handkerchiefs or two towels will not have a negative impact.
Socks, panties, books
There are items that are not recommended to be given to a man. What is strictly forbidden to present to your loved one? What can't you give a man? Signs associated with socks pass from generation to generation. Everyone knows that such things should not be given to a husband or a loved one. Having received such a gift, a man may soon leave the family.
Giving panties as a gift means treason. This intimate piece of clothing symbolizes love affairs on the side.
Books, oddly enough, also lead to separation. Love lyrics, poetry, novels are not a good gift for a loved one. This bad omen can lead to a break in relationships.
Sharp objects
Do not present piercing and cutting items to those who believe in What should not be given? Decorative pins, scissors, knives, daggers, forks. Such gifts will bring quarrel and misfortune into the house.
Any edge (knife or furniture) attracts negative energy. Therefore, even in the interior of the house, preference should be given to a round or oval table, rounded corners of a chest of drawers or cabinets.
Giving a knife as a gift will make or break a relationship with the giver. But for a woman, such a gift is a sign of a new acquaintance, an interesting admirer.
Mirrors
Girls, due to their emotionality and suspiciousness, give gifts the wrong meaning. Therefore, surprises for the fair sex should be treated with caution. What should you not give to a girl? Signs about pearls have been known for a long time. Superstitious people claim that these are the tears of mermaids. And pearls can bring misfortune.
Girls and women should not be given mirrors. When you look into them, youth will disappear, old age will come faster. Since their creation, mirrors have frightened people with their reflected world. Legends say that they are the entrance to another dimension. In addition, the mirror perfectly stores information. It carries a lot of alien energy, both positive and negative.
Such a gift may frighten a superstitious person. According to signs, it is cracked or brings misfortune, death. Therefore, it is better to refuse such a gift.
Images of animals, birds
Bad omens are associated with birds. What cannot be given are figurines or figurines of doves, magpies, crows, herons. They are a symbol of misfortune. Even a bird flying into the house can bring trouble. Therefore, bird figures are associated with sadness.
What kind of figurines with different animals should you not give to a guy? Signs, for example, associate the figure of the slonik with an erection. A lowered trunk is associated with impaired potency. But if the elephant’s trunk is raised up, this means happiness.
Wallet
Even the color of your wallet can cause problems. The blue hue is associated with the element of water. This means that money will not stay in such a wallet and will begin to flow away. The ideal color of a wallet to attract money is brown or red.
Signs say that you cannot give an empty wallet. Be sure to put a small coin there. She will attract money, and in the future the wallet will always be full.
Dowry for a newborn
A huge number of omens are associated with a dowry for a newborn. All superstitions agree on one thing - before the birth of a child, nothing should be given to his parents. Neither rompers, nor booties, nor children's dishes, nor toys should be presented to a young family. Only after the successful birth of the baby can gifts be given.
They are also considered a strange gift. Perhaps this is due to the fact that the master puts part of his soul into his work. Dolls are also often associated with Voodoo magic. Therefore, having received a porcelain beauty as a gift, you need to cleanse it of foreign energy.
Gift cleansing
If there is a suspicion that the gifted item may cause trouble, you should definitely cleanse it of negative energy. There is no need to refuse the gift and offend the giver. It is better to figure out in a calm atmosphere why the gift causes unpleasant associations and clear it of unnecessary information.
- Money. The easiest way to neutralize a bad omen is to redeem a gift. Of course, you shouldn't pay the real price for it. A small coin given to the donor will relieve painful doubts.
- Water. If possible, rinse the gift under running water or wipe with a damp cloth. This will help clear the item of any negative information.
- Fire. The cleansing flame will remove all bad omens. You can move the gift over the candle flame. Or fumigate a questionable object with smoke from a fire.
- Salt. This is the most acceptable method if the gift cannot be wetted or brought near the fire. If the gift is small, you can bury it in coarse salt overnight. By morning the gift will be clear of any energy-informational influence.
The ability to give gifts depends not only on the availability of funds and good imagination, but also on the ability to distinguish what can be given from what gifts cannot be given under any circumstances.
An ill-considered gift can ruin the holiday mood of the recipient, as well as have a negative impact on his future life and health.
To avoid mistakes when choosing a gift, you must adhere to the following rules:
Avoid giving gifts that you don't need yourself. Never re-gift gifts given to you (with the exception of things that are inherited).
Each item contains information about the atmosphere that was present when purchased, therefore, it is very important that this atmosphere is prosperous and healthy.
Never haggle when buying a gift, as during haggling the true value of the gift is lost.
Do not purchase a gift in installments or with money borrowed or at interest. Such a gift will never preserve a good memory of the giver. A gift can very quickly fail or even get lost.
Giving a cross can break your relationship with the recipient of the gift.
A gifted candlestick for one candle or a candlestick without candles can impose loneliness on the person to whom it is given.
Giving cutting or piercing things can provoke enmity between the giver and the recipient of the gift.
A gift of tablecloth can cause a long separation.
Never give scarves as gifts, as they can provoke grief and tears, and black scarves are mourning. The exception is bright and downy scarves.
Gifted slippers, pajamas or a robe can tie a person for a long time to the place where he receives the gift. It is especially not recommended to give such gifts in the hospital.
Avoid giving empty gifts, such as jewelry boxes, all kinds of boxes, cases and wallets. Such gifts must be filled at least a little with the contents for which they are intended.
Never give socks and gloves as gifts, as due to their fragility, they are a symbol of destruction, disunity and instability.
Do not give gifts that have minor or obvious defects.
The items listed above not only should not be used as a gift, but also not recommended for lending. An item of this kind found on the street can lead to serious trouble.
From time immemorial, both kings and slaves believed in omens. And anyone who laughed at this belief was considered a fool. “Sign” from the word “notice”, “notice”. For years, decades and even centuries, our great-grandfathers traced certain patterns associated with their daily lives. Frequently repeated sequences were given a special meaning. These are the signs in the form in which grandmothers now present them to their grandchildren.
You can't give your wife glasses. It would seem, why? The sign says: after such a gift, the wife will look at the world through “your” eyes. You ask: “What’s wrong with that?” Apparently, our ancestors thought that this was not very good after all.
In fact, signs regarding gifts are a psychologically important aspect. It is important not what sign the gift falls under, but how it was presented.
Let's consider two options: your gift to someone and someone else's gift to you.
The first option, on the one hand, is more understandable - think, read what can be given in this or that case, and what is absolutely not allowed. On the other hand, it is very difficult to please the hero of the occasion and at the same time not offend him or provoke bad thoughts about you. The best solution to this problem is to ask the person to whom the gift is intended what he himself wants to receive. The decision is reasonable and worthy of a civilized person. Firstly, you will not find yourself in an awkward position by “foisting” a useless item, and secondly, even if there is a bad omen associated with your gift, you will not be embarrassed by this circumstance, since the person himself ordered this item for you. If possible, you need to inform the recipient of the possible consequences of your gift to be sure that he is aware, and so that there are no misunderstandings and resentments later.
The second option is similar to the first. There is no need to be embarrassed and overprice yourself: say directly what you want to receive on an important day for you (or simply in honor of some event). It's a little more difficult if you've already received something as a gift that makes you doubtful. But you shouldn’t be upset here either. If the person did not have malicious intent, he simply did not know that this is exactly what you should not give, pay him. One coin of a small denomination is enough for the item not to be considered a gift, but to be purchased in the most natural way. This method is used by older people, and many young people too, when giving animals or plants. The sign says: you must either buy it or steal it, otherwise the animal will die and the flower will wither.
From the article below you will find out what gifts should not be given, Is it true? what you can’t give a watch, and why, is it possible to give a knife and many more interesting things. Knowing signs, what can't be given to our loved ones and acquaintances, we thereby protect our relationships.
A gift is a ritual of exchange of energies between the giver and the one who receives the gift. Therefore, of course, the mood of the giver, his emotions during the choice of a gift, and at the time of its delivery, are important. I won’t surprise anyone if I say: giving gifts is a responsible ritual that should be carried out easily, with love, with joy and only with good wishes.
What you will learn from the article:
What gifts should you not give?
Below you will find the top most famous omens regarding gift taboos. If it so happens that you have prepared a similar gift or someone decided to give you one of the items listed below, take it in return or give a ransom for it, symbolically turning it into a purchase. A couple of rubles will be enough. During the exchange, say out loud or to yourself that you are making a purchase and closing the energy circle between you and the item.
1.you cannot give a watch
Why don't they give you a watch? Because a clock is a living, ticking embodiment of time itself. For this reason, both wearing watches and having them excessively in the house is undesirable. Every time, even automatically looking at the clock, we remind our consciousness of the finitude of everything in our material world.
A gifted watch can serve as a timer for the relationship between the giver and the recipient. This clock seems to symbolically count down the time until your separation, breakup, or end of your relationship. And the breakdown of this watch can provoke a “breakdown” in the relationship. That's why you can't give a watch.
2.a handkerchief cannot be given as a gift
It is not customary mainly among Christians to give this accessory according to signs. This is due to sad rituals during which tears are wiped away with a handkerchief. Although, to be honest, I can hardly imagine how someone would suddenly decide to buy handkerchiefs as a gift for the birthday boy. And who knows?
3. It is better not to give a knife or other piercing or cutting objects.
It’s not difficult to guess why you can’t give a knife as a gift. Objects with sharpened blades cut the space between the giver and the lucky recipient. As a result, people seem to find themselves in different dimensions, which can lead to misunderstandings in the future, to quarrels and conflicts, and sometimes to hostility. This, by the way, also includes firearms “as a gift”. Still, these things do not bring harmony to the world around us.
4.they don’t give you a mirror
On one side in front of us is a piece of glass coated with silver on the outside. On the other hand, there is a thing with the help of which at least one parallel world is formed, which can reflect something that is not visible to our eyes, but which absolutely clearly exists in our space.
I would even advise not to “don’t give” a mirror, but not to accept it. Because, after all, you always need to know what your mirror reflected. After all, what was reflected in him left its energetic mark for a long time, if not forever. That is why antique mirrors, it is unknown whose mirrors and mirrors that have witnessed something terrible and unpleasant must be urgently thrown out of their habitat.
5.combing is a bad gift
6.don't give a belt
A given belt symbolically binds a person. This can cause internal resistance in him, which in turn will lead to hostility, alienation, misunderstanding, quarrels or hostility. At first glance, out of the blue.
According to popular wisdom, brides and wives should not give socks to their betrothed. Supposedly he can merrily stomp around to another lady in them. They even say that some shrewd wives deliberately ask their mother-in-law to give their son this piece of clothing. According to legend, this alienates mother and son, which can make some wives very happy.
Of course, if the family is suffering and this is truly an incurable “mama’s boy”, then one can understand. But in any other cases, dear women, do not interfere in the relationship between mother and son. Don't waste good karma.
8. Is it worth giving talismans, amulets, amulets?
It’s also better not to take it. Once, for my birthday, I received a beautiful pendant from friends - it seemed that the pendant was just an animal totem according to the Western horoscope, but, apparently, the energy of the giver was superimposed... I won’t blame you. I’ll tell you the fact: I quarreled with my husband. And she took it off. It's a matter of a couple of minutes. As soon as I took it off, everything changed dramatically for the better...
There is probably no such person who would not like to accept gifts. And some people love to give gifts, even more than to receive. True, according to popular belief, there are gifts that absolutely cannot be given.
To believe or not to believe omens? Everyone must find the answer to this question for themselves: consider the fulfilled sign to be a coincidence or bad luck.
But if the thought “what if” still haunts you, and you definitely need to choose a gift, just in case, check out the unspoken list of prohibited gifts.
The list of prohibited gifts includes:
Watch.
The sign came to us from China. According to one legend, the word “clock” in Chinese is consonant with the word “burial”, and therefore carries a negative charge. The Chinese avoid watch gifts and consider them an invitation to a funeral. In our country, this sign has acquired a completely different interpretation. It is believed that the passage of a clock determines the life span or the duration of a relationship with a person; as soon as the hands stop, people will disperse.
Slippers.
Of course. No one will give white slippers, but homemade or original ones, made with your own hands - why not a present? Signs indicate that the one to whom the slippers were given will soon leave (from home, from family, etc.).
Handkerchiefs.
This sign came to us from China, and this superstition is very popular to this day. According to superstitious Chinese, scarves symbolize grief, so they are brought into the house as a “gift” only on sad occasions. Not only in China, but also in Russia and other countries, it is not customary to give a person handkerchief- tears pass with him.
Handmade porcelain dolls.
According to legend, a master who makes a porcelain doll with his own hands puts part of his soul into it and at the same time can convey to it both good and bad thoughts. Therefore, it is especially not recommended to give them to children.
Knives.
The superstition prohibiting giving knives as a gift arose a long time ago. A knife gift symbolizes misfortune. Since ancient times, the basis of this superstition has been the belief that the gift of a knife attracted all kinds of evil spirits, which are very fond of sharp corners and pointed edges. Therefore, when receiving a knife as a gift, you can simultaneously receive an evil spirit in addition. As a result, quarrels, scandals and discord may arise between the recipient and the donor.
Almost all piercing and cutting objects as gifts are viewed negatively. In Japan, for example, knives are considered symbols of the traditional hara-kiri ritual, and therefore are under a social taboo.
Mirror.
Why can't you give a mirror? It is believed that the mirror carries a certain secret; it is not without reason that it is used in magical rituals. The belief is still relevant that a person, once reflected in a mirror, leaves a piece of his soul in it. Thus, negative emotions and negative energy of the giver remain in the donated mirror. A mirror dooms a quarrel or separation, that is, together with a mirror presented as a gift, misfortune will come to the house.
Unethical gifts.
Money.
It is customary to give money exclusively for a wedding, preferably in a piggy bank or gift envelope. When you give money, you don’t need to advertise the amount! It is better to give them discreetly, and so that the newlyweds know who the gift envelope or box is from, include a card with wishes.
Cosmetics, jewelry.
Only a woman can give cosmetics and jewelry to a woman! Of course, no man will be able to choose decorative cosmetics for a woman that will actually suit her. And jewelry as a gift from a man is perceived as saving money, cheap decoration. Such a gift is only acceptable for a school-age teenager. If you are giving jewelry, forget about saving!
Perfume, underwear.
Perfumes are gifts “on the verge of intimacy.” In fact, a person’s sense of smell and his preferences in this area is a thing that defies any logical explanation. Therefore, it is almost impossible to guess with the choice of perfume, eau de toilette or cologne. Only a loved one has the right to give a fragrance, because he is firmly convinced that the birthday person likes this fragrance, that he dreams of it.
An even more intimate gift – lingerie! Underwear can only be given to a very close person - a wife, husband or daughter. But, if you definitely decide to give lingerie, then the best option is to simply buy a gift certificate and give your loved one the opportunity to independently choose what he or she likes. At the same time there will be a surprise for you!
Household gifts.
In no case is it recommended to give women gifts related to the kitchen: household appliances or dishes! The exception is glasses or porcelain.
If the gift is for a man, then you can easily miss if the one to whom the gift is intended knows and knows how to handle the tool, and he has very clear preferences in this area.
Living gifts.
Animals also cannot be given as gifts, since this is a big responsibility and additional worries. You cannot give pets to anyone other than your own child! There are still exceptions here: plants and butterflies! Houseplants can and should be given to women who really love to care for them.
A gift that may seem to hint at a flaw.
Such a gift should not be given, even if this disadvantage does not actually exist. Such gifts include scales (a hint of excess weight), masks and creams for the face and body.
This is especially true for gifts to women, since a man should not take part in the sacrament of turning a woman into a beauty. Don’t even think about giving all kinds of household appliances for “beauty enhancement,” such as hair curlers, epilators, and manicure sets.
Unwanted gifts also include candles, towels, and many other items that, in principle, are completely harmless. Only those who trust folk signs can see the double meaning in them.
Alcoholic drinks and smoking accessories Under no circumstances should it be given to women.
If you present these items to men, buy only expensive, elite varieties of alcohol or tobacco.
Of course, no one needs to be reminded that the price tag needs to be removed from the gift. This is a basic etiquette rule.
It’s quite easy not to make a mistake when choosing a gift - find out the wishes of the birthday person, because if a person knows in advance what he will receive for the holiday, the gift will not become worse. Perhaps the birthday boy collects knives, he likes porcelain dolls, he has long wanted a new wall clock, and slippers are the object of his dreams. He will be happy with any of these gifts. In this case, all taboos are urgently lifted!
What about the signs?
Let the signs remain fictitious and unrealistic!
It is necessary to list and describe those things that are not recommended to be chosen as a gift under any circumstances.
Bad omens about gifts
Mirror
Since ancient times, it has been believed that this item has some kind of magical power. There is a claim that, once in the hands of an experienced sorcerer, a mirror helps to perform various magical rituals. For example, if you give a “spoken” mirror to a young successful person, then through it you can take away all her youth, luck and beauty.
You can often come across statements that a mirror serves as a kind of portal to other worlds. But accepting a gift in the form of an antique mirror is considered especially dangerous. After all, it is capable of storing the information and energy of all the people who have ever looked at its reflection.
Over a long period of time, the mirror surface could absorb the energy of many deaths, grief and unfortunate human destinies. In addition, there is a popular belief that mirror surfaces can also store the restless souls of long-dead people, those who passed away voluntarily.
Watch
It is believed that gifted watches bring all sorts of misfortunes. If given as a wedding gift, they will begin to count down the time spent in harmony and love for the newlyweds. This will inevitably lead to quarrels and, as a result, to divorce. And if, for example, you give a wall clock to the head of an organization, then he will not be able to hold this position for a long time.
Chinese porcelain dolls
The thing is that such dolls are made based on the prototype of living people. In other words, the doll’s face reflects the features of a real person, repeats his facial expressions, gaze, and smile. That is, the energy of a certain person can live in a doll. And it is unknown how this will affect the health and life in general of those people to whom they were given.
Piercing objects
It is not recommended to give gifts in the form of forks, knives, and daggers. These items will bring negative energy into the house. It is believed that such gifts bring only quarrels, discord and troubles into the life of the person to whom they are presented.
Bird figures
Just like knives, bird figurines can bring misfortune and sorrow to the house. This is due to the belief that the bird is a symbol of distress noise. It is not for nothing that a bird accidentally flying into a window is believed to bring grief.
Slippers, mittens and gloves
You should especially not give these gifts to older people. After all, such gifts can remind them of their approaching old age.
And donated gloves or mittens are a harbinger that the giver intends to end the relationship with the recipient of the gift. It was not for nothing that in the old days, when challenging someone to a duel, they threw down the gauntlet.
As for the gift of slippers, some believe that this is a very bad omen, promising a quick death to the person to whom they were presented.
Empty bags, wallets and backpacks
In order to avoid financial problems for people who will be given these things as a gift, a paper banknote must be inserted inside them. The larger it is, the better.
Items associated with illness
You cannot give items that, one way or another, remind you of diseases. For example, an inhaler, a heating pad, a tonometer, a spinal corset.
Animals
It is better not to give live animals unless you are sure that a person has long dreamed of a specific animal of a specific breed. If you do happen to give such a gift, you must take a ransom for the animal - a symbolic amount of money. Otherwise, the animal may run away from its owner or get sick.
Underwear, handkerchiefs and socks
It is not recommended to give items of underwear and socks as gifts to your husbands. It is believed that this can provoke the faithful to betrayal, as well as to travel long distances. There is an opinion that gifts of socks are a harbinger that the husband will leave home and will want to return to it more.
Donated handkerchiefs bring tears into the house. It’s not for nothing that those scarves that are used during the funeral ceremony are left at the cemetery without taking them into the house.
Pearl
Pearls themselves, or jewelry in which they are present, will bring other people's tears to its owner. After all, it is a symbol of the tears of the mermaid into which the young drowned woman turned.
Carnations, red and black bouquet, even number of flowers
It is believed that giving carnations is a bad sign. This will bring troubles and all sorts of misfortunes to the person to whom they were given.
It is also considered a bad sign to compose and give a bouquet that contains only red and black flowers. This bouquet symbolizes death.
And, of course, one of the most “dangerous” gifts, symbolizing death, is a bouquet presented to a living person, consisting of an even number of flowers.
Is it possible to re-gift gifts?
I would like to remind you that it is also not recommended to re-gift gifts. It is believed that the energy of the first recipient of the gift remains in him forever. Who knows what this energy is like, maybe negative? In any case, it is alien and will not bring anything good to the subsequent owners of this gift.
Finally, it should be noted that if it happens that you still have to give any of the above gifts, you should definitely demand a ransom for it in the form of a symbolic sum of money. Then all the negative energy from this gift will go away.
